FAQ

Frequently Asked Questions

Is my book private?
Yes. Your Book of You is yours alone, accessible only through your login. Nothing here is published or shared unless you choose to bring a truth over to the Book of Us yourself.
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What is a truth?
A truth is something you know to be true for you, a line you could live by. It may come on a deep journey, from something someone once said to you, or from something you lived through. Some last a lifetime and some are for this week. Your Book holds them, so you can come back to them on the days you forget.
What's the difference between My Truth and A Truth?

We believe truth is one, but no one can hand it to you. What we see of it depends on where we stand: what we have lived, how aware we are, and how clearly we can see what actually is. As we grow, what is true for us grows with us. So truth here is not something we tell you. It is what you come to see.

My Truth is what is true for you, now, in your own words. It is personal, and it can change as you do. A Truth is wisdom that has held true for many people, across many lives. Some are both. Beneath all of them is Being, the part of you that does not change.

Is this therapy?
No. This work is not therapy and isn't a substitute for it. Guides here are not licensed medical or mental health professionals. If something heavy comes up, we will always encourage you to reach out to a licensed therapist or another qualified professional.

Ask…

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Sauna
A long outdoor table, everyone writing
Writing retreat
Two men talking on park benches
Deep conversation
A man with his head in his hands over falling coins
Financial loss

There are no wrong questions.

How is this different from the Book of Us?
The Book of You is where you do the personal work of finding and holding your truth, private, yours. The Book of Us is where truths become collective, public, shared by people everywhere. Learn more →
What does the Book actually do with what I write?
It keeps it, and it brings it back. Where you ask for a reading, it offers something drawn only from your own words. A shorter version of a truth, a summary of a journey, one possible reading of it, a plan shaped from what you said. Every one of those is labelled as coming from the Book, and every one ends by asking whether it resonates. You keep it, edit it, ask for another attempt, or throw it away. Nothing it writes becomes part of your Book unless you say so.
Do I have to answer everything?
No. Almost nothing is required, you can skip any question, and you can come back and add to it whenever you want. The more you give it the more it can give back, because it can only work with what you tell it, but a two-minute entry is a real entry. If a journey is something you do often, you can build a shorter form out of the questions you actually want and keep the answers that never change, so a morning practice takes a minute.
What if I can't put my truth into words?
That is normal and it is not a failure. Some truths arrive whole and some take weeks to find their words. You can leave it empty, carry on with the rest, and come back. When you reach the end the Book will offer what it thinks your truth might be, drawn from everything you wrote, as a suggestion, never a verdict.

Explore…

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Gardening
A skydiver in free fall
Adventure
A painting class at easels
Group art exploration
A road sign pointing to retirement
Next stage of life

At your own pace, in your own way.

Can someone else see my journey?
Only if you send it to them. You can invite a coach, guide or someone who was there to add their own perspective. They get a short form of their own, never access to your Book, and what they write is kept as theirs rather than folded into your words. You can also send a finished journey document to one person. They see that document and nothing else, and you can take it back at any time.
Is the microphone always listening?
No. It records only while you have pressed the button, it stops the moment you leave the page or move to another question, and the audio itself is never kept. Only the words that appear in the box are saved, and you can edit them before moving on.
What are the different journey types?
A journey can be a micro journey, a minute or two before and a few after; a mez journey, in the middle; or a macro journey, the full process for something you want to give real time to. It can be a meditation, a sound journey, a walk in nature, breathwork, a 1:1 session, and more. You can journey 1:1, in a longer container of one, three or six months, or with a group. Every way in is on Community & Events.
Can I cancel and get a refund?
All sales are final for events under $75. For events of $75 and over, cancel at least 7 days before and you get a full refund. If something serious happens, like an illness or a family emergency, write to us at within@bookofyou.co and you can ask for a credit toward another event. If we cancel or move an event, you always get a full refund. Cancellations
What do you mean by Being?
Being is your true self, at the core. Some call it the Self, the higher self, the soul, or consciousness. It is whole, and it never changes. At its center, Being is love. The part of you that notices your thoughts and feelings is the witness, and witnessing is how you step into Being. Around it are the twelve areas of life where you show up in the world. See Being and the Twelve.
Is this religious?
No. People of every faith come here, and people of none. Some call what is greater than us God, some Spirit, some the higher self, some simply love. Whatever you believe in that is greater than you, and that speaks to the oneness we share, is welcome here.

Agency…

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Letter writing
A couple holding a painting they made
Art together
Three tree-shaped heads turning green (illustration)
Recovery
Two people apart in silhouette at sunset
Divorce

Trust yourself, first.

How did you choose the areas of life?

We set 34 of the best-known ways of dividing up a whole life side by side, from coaching, psychology and therapy, wellness and research, philosophy, and the world’s spiritual and wisdom traditions, and counted which parts of life they name most often. Ten came out on top. We chose the eleventh ourselves, Play, Creativity & Recreation, because the count can’t see everything. The twelfth is Something else, left for you to name: something alive in your life that none of the others quite holds. Being sits at the center of them all. We are not saying this is the right list, or the only one. It is simply what we came up with. These are the 34:

Coaching

  • The Wheel of Life (Paul J. Meyer)
  • Tony Robbins, areas of life
  • Stephen Covey, the four dimensions of renewal
  • Hal Elrod, Level 10 Life

Psychology and therapy

  • Sigmund Freud, love and work
  • Alfred Adler, the life tasks
  • Carl Jung, five factors for happiness
  • Abraham Maslow, the hierarchy of needs
  • William Glasser, the basic needs
  • Carol Ryff, psychological well-being
  • Martin Seligman, PERMA
  • Edward Deci and Richard Ryan, Self-Determination Theory
  • The biopsychosocial-spiritual model

Wellness and research

  • Bill Hettler, six dimensions of wellness
  • SAMHSA, eight dimensions of wellness
  • Gallup, five elements of well-being
  • VA Whole Health, the Circle of Health
  • The World Health Organization’s definition of health
  • Blue Zones, the Power 9
  • The OECD Better Life Index
  • Bhutan, Gross National Happiness

Philosophy

  • Aristotle, the three kinds of goods
  • Stoicism, Hierocles’ circles of concern
  • Confucianism, The Great Learning

Spiritual and wisdom traditions

  • Hinduism, the four aims of life
  • Buddhism, the Noble Eightfold Path
  • Christianity, heart, soul, mind and strength
  • Islam, the objectives of the law (maqasid)
  • Judaism, the three things the world stands on
  • Sikhism, the three pillars
  • The Medicine Wheel, the four aspects of self
  • The chakras
  • Ikigai
  • Yoga, the five sheaths (koshas)